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Comment on After Effects by Dacia Esme

Dacia Esme — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 14:45:53 +0000

WHEN I WAS ME
Why is she here what does she want
Is there something I’ve done must I always be watched
Around corners and behind bookshelves she lies in wait
With my co-workers watching will someone help me

My minds in a fog I can’t sleep or eat
Is she outside my window spying on me

You’re a rank corporate monster your face makes me sick
I wish you’d get a hobby or take a permanent trip

The devil incarnate you never fooled me
You’re a creep and a liar keep your hands off of me

My world is held captive by your legal mess
From the moment I met you I knew you were death

I want to be free I wish to be strong
I wish to forget all that went wrong
I’d like to dream and not see your face
I’d like to remember when I was me

Comment on What Needs to Happen by Dacia Esme

Dacia Esme — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 18:16:19 +0000

I ask myself over and over… why does this still hurt like it just happened? It has been 10 months since my wrongful termination case began. I keep thinking that when the case is over, I will be fine – just like before I went to work for this insane, corrupt group of lawyers. The hardest thing for me is not being heard when I talk about what happened, people will say…. what did you do? how were you dressed? you did’nt report the situation properly and that is why they kept hitting on you or (this is the best one)you know you really aren’t that attractive, why were they hitting on you? Rather than validation many people have made matters worse. At times I feel hopeless and alone, I wonder if that will ever change. But, reaching out and writing on this site from time to time sure helps. This situation has frozen my life, it has been really hard to feel good about myself. But I have hope and I know in time things will get better.

Comment on I Fell Asleep by Dacia Esme

Dacia Esme — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 21:42:45 +0000

This is a wonderful expression of are very difficult matter. I feel that it is so hard to put into logical words the pain and violation of sexual harassment. I relate exactly to what you are saying, as if I said it myself. Thank you!

Comment on False allegations do happen–but they are not the norm by Craig

Craig — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 13:08:10 +0000

It is about time that the Law took a firm stance. -

1. False allegations should be subject to the laws of slander and compensation
2. Those who make the false allegation must provide the proof
3. Compensation should be proportional to the effects of the false allegation in terms of loss of reputation, loss of income, loss of career, breakup of family etc, and false accusers must be suable to that extent
4. Companies should be stricktly forbidden to remove a person’s employment in the absence of proof.

The current state of our laws regarding false allegations of sexual harassment is pathetic. It does no service to the cause of the women’s movement when a man is effectively raped of his career and reputation simply because a woman decides to make up a story.

Comment on Fear of anger stops many women in their tracks by Tee

Tee — Thu, 13 May 2010 01:33:41 +0000

I can relate to NYCDOE. I allowed things to go on for over a year and I couldn’t take it anymore so I told. He was my boss. You have always been taught to do as your boss says. Well come to find out he was having many affairs with women who wanted it. I didn’t and I told the HIGHEST I could go because he was having an affair with his boss. I got fired even after I stayed 4 months after they fired him for other reasons and keeping a smile on my face. They fired me because I was a liability and a constant reminder of what had previously happened. The place is lonely where I am. Very.

Comment on Women behaving badly by Echo Foxtrot

Echo Foxtrot — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 18:44:16 +0000

Sexual harassment of men by women is ROUTINE and widespread in many offices: many women wear low-cut and/or skin-tight tops that show off half their breasts, and wear close-fitting miniskirts, as well.

Comment on Stalking as a by-product of sexual harassment law by samantha

samantha — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 03:45:44 +0000

I completely agree, stalking victims are basically helpless because of the way the law is set up. As long as the person is not threatening your life in some way they can get away with stalking you. My ex-boy friend has been doing this for a month now and there nothing I can really do about it because he is not violent about it. It is the most frustrating thing i have ever experienced. The laws should really be more strict in order to prevent this. By the time you can actually even get a restraining order it may be too late as a majority of stalkers become violent by that point.

Comment on False allegations do happen–but they are not the norm by Accused

Accused — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:40:52 +0000

False sexual harassment claims hurt ALL women. I have been a committed advocate of women’s empowerment my whole life and am now being accused of SH by an unstable women. I have the physical evidence (and the truth) on my side, but the women investigating the case are so agenda driven that I am going to have to take them to court. It’s sad for everyone involved and it hurts my feminist heart.

Comment on False allegations do happen–but they are not the norm by Pat

Pat — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 18:44:05 +0000

I am not up for posting my entire story but just by way of showing solidarity I wanted to say that I was falsely accused of harassment by a woman who I had passed over for a promotion. The specifics (and they were very specific) of the claim simply never happened. Unfortunately the allegations supposedly occurred while we were alone in the work day. I had no way to disprove them and fortunately that meant as well that she had no way to prove them. None the less the allegation cost me not my job but my reputation at the office. I might as well have lost my job as now I will never get another promotion etc.

Comment on Fear of anger stops many women in their tracks by NYCDOE

NYCDOE — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 12:35:46 +0000

I allowed my torment for months because I kept telling myself. You are 13 years older then he, He’s a young new principal and needs to be refined in professional speaking to woman, who is going to believe me with much younger/prettier woman on staff.

Most importantly, HE is the boss! Who do you tell when it’s the BOSS?

It is very hard to approach anyone when you are a victim. After I spoke up, I felt like Alice in wonderland. Going from one character to another, yet finding no one who could relate to how I felt. It’s a lonely place.