Comments on: Am feeling the guilt for telling and feel like I did something wrong http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/06/14/am-feeling-the-guilt-for-telling-and-feel-like-i-did-something-wrong/ Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:56:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: winnie http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/06/14/am-feeling-the-guilt-for-telling-and-feel-like-i-did-something-wrong/#comment-90 Sat, 16 Dec 2006 02:07:02 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/06/14/am-feeling-the-guilt-for-telling-and-feel-like-i-did-something-wrong/#comment-90 be strong i know it is a scary thing to speak out. i had to do the same thing. my boss harassed and assulted me for 3 years. and i finally said enough is enough and went to the police. it is still in the investigation prosses. and i dont work there anymore. and it is a very scary thing. i m scared.. but we just have to say to our selfs that we did nothing wrong they did. and i will not let them get away with it. be strong and feel good about taking a stand...you are in my thoughts. be strong i know it is a scary thing to speak out. i had to do the same thing. my boss harassed and assulted me for 3 years. and i finally said enough is enough and went to the police. it is still in the investigation prosses. and i dont work there anymore. and it is a very scary thing. i m scared.. but we just have to say to our selfs that we did nothing wrong they did. and i will not let them get away with it. be strong and feel good about taking a stand…you are in my thoughts.

]]> by: brenda http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/06/14/am-feeling-the-guilt-for-telling-and-feel-like-i-did-something-wrong/#comment-8 Mon, 25 Sep 2006 02:39:07 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/06/14/am-feeling-the-guilt-for-telling-and-feel-like-i-did-something-wrong/#comment-8      You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. I work with men and it has been my observation that when men bully in any way, it will not stop unless you make it stop. If that means a lawyer and a therapist, then do it. You have enough on your hands with a job and a life without bullies, sexual or otherwise making your life harder. If you do not follow through and make their worst fears come true the harrassment will get even worse once the harrassers see that you won't stand up.      I filed a sexual harrassment complaint where I work and my company took it very seriously. It did not entail a lawsuit, thank goodness, but the personnel rep thanked me for complaining. Even if she had not thanked me I would not have felt guilty. I was molested as a child, and I learned that I was not the guilty one, just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I felt sullied for many years but I was not sullied; the one who molested me was and he has to look at himself in the mirror every day and live with what he knows he is. In the end, so do your harrassers have to live with what they know they are even though they may never admit it even to themselves. I don't know you but I feel sorry for your pain and I hope this helps you.      You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. I work with men and it has been my observation that when men bully in any way, it will not stop unless you make it stop. If that means a lawyer and a therapist, then do it. You have enough on your hands with a job and a life without bullies, sexual or otherwise making your life harder. If you do not follow through and make their worst fears come true the harrassment will get even worse once the harrassers see that you won’t stand up.

     I filed a sexual harrassment complaint where I work and my company took it very seriously. It did not entail a lawsuit, thank goodness, but the personnel rep thanked me for complaining. Even if she had not thanked me I would not have felt guilty. I was molested as a child, and I learned that I was not the guilty one, just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I felt sullied for many years but I was not sullied; the one who molested me was and he has to look at himself in the mirror every day and live with what he knows he is. In the end, so do your harrassers have to live with what they know they are even though they may never admit it even to themselves. I don’t know you but I feel sorry for your pain and I hope this helps you.

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