Comments on: I tried to just get over it, but I can’t http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/ Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences Tue, 14 Oct 2008 04:07:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: Ocelot http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/#comment-281 Sun, 04 Mar 2007 15:38:54 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/#comment-281 Possible reasons for your strong reaction: - A strong sense of betrayal when he touched your leg. Years ago, an employer that I liked grabbed my ass and I never trusted him after that. - The touch was the first betrayal. You may subconsciously feel that anyone who touches your leg even by accident is "testing" you to see what else they can get away with. It may also feel like the beginning of possible harassment. - Leg touching is physical. It is part of you body. Words are ephemeral. You leg may feel "hurt" or "vulnerable" or even "tainted". Not sure of a solution. But maybe you can see if there aren't any therapists specializing in sexual abuse cases or in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Another idea is to join the support forum on this site and check out the exercises. I find them helpful. Possible reasons for your strong reaction:
- A strong sense of betrayal when he touched your leg. Years ago, an employer that I liked grabbed my ass and I never trusted him after that.
- The touch was the first betrayal. You may subconsciously feel that anyone who touches your leg even by accident is “testing” you to see what else they can get away with. It may also feel like the beginning of possible harassment.
- Leg touching is physical. It is part of you body. Words are ephemeral. You leg may feel “hurt” or “vulnerable” or even “tainted”.

Not sure of a solution. But maybe you can see if there aren’t any therapists specializing in sexual abuse cases or in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Another idea is to join the support forum on this site and check out the exercises. I find them helpful.

]]> by: Joe http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/#comment-57 Wed, 29 Nov 2006 07:02:16 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/#comment-57 I feel the same way right now... I feel like I've blown things out of the water and that they're not as bad as I make them out to be... I'm glad though, that I'm not alone. :) I feel the same way right now…

I feel like I’ve blown things out of the water and that they’re not as bad as I make them out to be…

I’m glad though, that I’m not alone. :)

]]> by: Jasmine http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/#comment-14 Mon, 02 Oct 2006 09:40:26 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/07/14/i-tried-to-just-get-over-it-but-i-cant/#comment-14 wow that is really bad! some things like that happen at my school...but none of the girls do anything coz there r more guys than girls.. there r 6 girls and 15 guys. this one particular says " if u ever say anything its gonna hurt" like rape i guess.. we and ma girls are really scared. anyways this guys is sick... lve ya hunni jasmine xoxox australia wow

that is really bad! some things like that happen at my school…but none of the girls do anything coz there r more guys than girls..

there r 6 girls and 15 guys. this one particular says ” if u ever say anything its gonna hurt” like rape i guess..

we and ma girls are really scared.

anyways this guys is sick…
lve ya hunni
jasmine xoxox australia

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