Comments on: I need for this man to know that he cannot get away with what he has done. http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/ Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences Tue, 14 Oct 2008 03:59:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: Ocelot http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-219 Fri, 23 Feb 2007 12:07:38 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-219 Holy smokes, sounds like me! "I am on anti-depressants, suffer anxiety attacks, and have trust issues that I never had before." "Why I stayed to protect the others and why I put up with his abuse for so long is beyond me. It was almost like I was under a spell." "Now that I look back, it was really weird the way that he could get into our minds and manipulate us. I feel like a wife that has escaped her abusive husband. I still look over my shoulder." I'm having problems with my therapist. He's actually a very good therapist, has done some good, but he doesn't seem to understand the impact that harassment has had on me and why it's so hard for me to trust men. Thanks so much-- your post was thorough and you said a number of things I can identify with. In other words, I'm not a bad person or a negative one for not recovering as fast as he'd like. It sounds as if you have Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Look it up-- there may be specific treatments for it. Holy smokes, sounds like me!
“I am on anti-depressants, suffer anxiety attacks, and have trust issues that I never had before.” “Why I stayed to protect the others and why I put up with his abuse for so long is beyond me. It was almost like I was under a spell.” “Now that I look back, it was really weird the way that he could get into our minds and manipulate us. I feel like a wife that has escaped her abusive husband. I still look over my shoulder.”
I’m having problems with my therapist. He’s actually a very good therapist, has done some good, but he doesn’t seem to understand the impact that harassment has had on me and why it’s so hard for me to trust men.
Thanks so much– your post was thorough and you said a number of things I can identify with. In other words, I’m not a bad person or a negative one for not recovering as fast as he’d like. It sounds as if you have Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Look it up– there may be specific treatments for it.

]]> by: Channin http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-30 Fri, 27 Oct 2006 22:44:18 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-30 Thank you so much. Your kind words and encouraging thoughts mean so much to me. Thank you so much. Your kind words and encouraging thoughts mean so much to me.

]]> by: joanie http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-25 Mon, 23 Oct 2006 23:44:27 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-25 I hope that you give this creep the humiliation that he so richly deserves. He really put you and your co-workers through hell. Take care of yourself and be careful with the anti-depressants. I had a terrible time getting off of them after several years. It's horrible that you had to put up with so much abuse to keep a job. You will get through this.....keep your friends close and don't isolate too much. Don't let this grotesque man rent any more space in your head. Surround yourself with positive influences and positive people. Most of all do not blame yourself. I hope that you give this creep the humiliation that he so richly deserves. He really put you and your co-workers through hell.

Take care of yourself and be careful with the anti-depressants. I had a terrible time getting off of them after several years.

It’s horrible that you had to put up with so much abuse to keep a job. You will get through this…..keep your friends close and don’t isolate too much. Don’t let this grotesque man rent any more space in your head. Surround yourself with positive influences and positive people. Most of all do not blame yourself.

]]> by: Logen http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-21 Sat, 21 Oct 2006 16:08:24 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-21 I just read your story, and I want you to know that you have all the support you will ever need. What you went through was terrible, and I hope it has not ruined your life for good. Don't let one sick man destroy your life. The best revenge is becoming a stronger woman, and showing him you can overcome even his disgusting lode and outlandish remarks. All the best Logen I just read your story, and I want you to know that you have all the support you will ever need. What you went through was terrible, and I hope it has not ruined your life for good. Don’t let one sick man destroy your life. The best revenge is becoming a stronger woman, and showing him you can overcome even his disgusting lode and outlandish remarks.

All the best Logen

]]> by: Channin http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-19 Wed, 18 Oct 2006 22:05:46 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-19 I am glad to share my story. It has been a long hard road to go down and sometimes it seems never ending. He seemed to be able to have some type of control over all of us girls. Now that I look back, it was really weird the way that he could get into our minds and manipulate us. I feel like a wife that has escaped her abusive husband. I still look over my shoulder. I realize that that seems kind of dramatic, but it's true. I hope that other people can gain the courage to do what I have done. I was not a very courageous person but this has given me the ability to, at the very least, somewhat hold my head up high. I will keep you guys updated. Thanks again for your support. I am glad to share my story. It has been a long hard road to go down and sometimes it seems never ending. He seemed to be able to have some type of control over all of us girls. Now that I look back, it was really weird the way that he could get into our minds and manipulate us. I feel like a wife that has escaped her abusive husband. I still look over my shoulder. I realize that that seems kind of dramatic, but it’s true. I hope that other people can gain the courage to do what I have done. I was not a very courageous person but this has given me the ability to, at the very least, somewhat hold my head up high. I will keep you guys updated. Thanks again for your support.

]]> by: Ceara http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-18 Wed, 18 Oct 2006 20:26:00 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2006/10/14/i-need-for-this-man-to-know-that-he-cannot-get-away-with-what-he-has-done/#comment-18 Thanks for sharing this. I think a lot of people stay in abusive situations not understanding why they do it.  But workplace-wise, this seems to be really common in health care environments. (Boy, have I heard a lot of abusive doctor stories!!) I worked in health care for a long time, and abuse by superiors seems to be the norm. So, no one really questions it. You are very brave, not to mention progressive ;) , to be doing so. Please post again as the situation evolves. Thanks for sharing this. I think a lot of people stay in abusive situations not understanding why they do it.  But workplace-wise, this seems to be really common in health care environments. (Boy, have I heard a lot of abusive doctor stories!!) I worked in health care for a long time, and abuse by superiors seems to be the norm. So, no one really questions it. You are very brave, not to mention progressive ;) , to be doing so.

Please post again as the situation evolves.

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