The worst of it was from my brother
Miska, Jakarta Indonesia
I was a victim of SH when I was 8 years old. The worst of it was from my older brother. He asked me to play in his room, give me interesting book & he ask me to take off my clothes. Then he would molest me. After that he always said “DON’T TELL ANYONE BOUT THIS.” Things like this happen & happen again. It happened for more than a year until I had the courage to say “NO” & run from his room. I also kick him when he push me on the floor.
After a few weeks I came to my parents & told them about my brother and what he did to me. I was very very disappointed by my parent’s response. They told me “PLEASE DONT TELL ANYONE BOUT THIS..NOT EVEN TO YOUR SISTER.” I felt like I became a SH victim again even though I know my dad got very angry at my brother..and hit him like hell, but that’s it!! Then everything back to normal..my brother even not say sorry to me & nobody talk about it anymore.
Well I’m 30 years old girl now..I already forgive him & them, but still can’t forget about it. It has affect my relationship life..till now(cant trust any men who start a relation with me).







March 7th, 2007 at 12:05 pm
Hello.
I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you. Your very brave for being able to talk about that on a public website. I have a few questions if you don’t mind. 1) How could you forgive your own brother? 2) How could you forgive your parents for ignoring it almost completly? I think thats horrible that it happened you. I know almost exactly how you feel, my case was different.
You can always talk to me if you need anything at all, or if you feel discusted. ANYTHING. I am 16 years old, but i know alot. Take care
Katie
March 9th, 2007 at 9:29 pm
Your brother is twisted…..I know mine has been too..I was molested by mine when I was 15.My family has real boundary issues.As for my brother I know he has mental illnesses.So now I stay away from him and most of my family….I trust no-one except my daughter and as far as support. I strongly encourage you to get some help and work on PTSD..otherwise known as post traumatic stress disorder. There are some great books out there, including Trauma and recovery by Judith Hermann. Know that GOD is with you and nothing that ever happens to hurt you goes un-noticed by God. Be gentle with yourself and patient. Give yourself the understanding and love that so many people cannot and have not.
April 22nd, 2007 at 9:13 pm
Hey. I don’t really remember much, but I do remember being nine years old and my 13 year old brother asking me to play strip poker with him. I always laughed about it, til one day I realized how not normal of a thing that was. Anyway, i’ve struggled with forgiving him, and i still struggle with relationships… it’s hard to forgive especially when what I really want is an apology… to just know that he knows that what he did was wrong and hurtful… i’ve never talked to him about it… anyway, your story is helpful…