My friends think I should be flattered–I AM NOT!
Carrie, Colorado
I am a senior in high school and have been harassed by many of my classmates because I am known as the “hot girl with the nice body.”
One time I was just walking down the school hall and a guy grabs my butt and tells me I have a nice ass. Another time was when I was in the classroom sitting next to one of my guy friends and his other friends. I was wearing a skirt and he reached up my skirt. I pulled his hand out and asked him what he was doing. He said “I’m just trying to have some fun.” Then he went up my skirt again… I didn’t know what to do because he was a really good friend. I got really self-conscious and never wore a skirt again or a low-cut shirt.
This kind of thing happens to me a lot. I tell my friends but they think I should be flattered. I AM NOT! It makes me even more self-conscious.
I finally decided to tell a teacher about this and it helped. They talked to the guys and told them that they have seen this kind of thing before from them. I wasn’t alone anymore.
I am now in college with a nice boyfriend. But I will never forget all about high school and the boys that did that to me. I am glad that I told the teachers about what was happening. I think everyone going through something like this should tell. It’s like a whole lot off your shoulders.







April 23rd, 2007 at 6:30 am
Trust me sexual harassment can damage you emotionally and physically! I’m glad that things worked out for you and good for you for speaking up! It should never be about what you wear or how you look. Guys that have respect for you should treat you with respect. Hopefully they learned their lesson and will never do this again to someone else. And I agree it’s not flattery it’s sexual harassment!
April 26th, 2007 at 6:25 am
You didn’t do anything wrong! Look around - women who get harrassed look and dress in all kinds of ways - nobody invites dehumanizing and degrading treatment.
Other women who haven’t experienced it are fooled by our culture, which teaches that the more attractive a woman is, the more of a success she is. Sometimes other women are jealous of the attention! But other victims know better. We know how you feel.
Don’t believe what your harrassers believe: that you are not worthy of respect; that you dont matter; that all you are about is sex. THEY ARE WRONG! Remember that!
May 12th, 2007 at 2:23 am
No matter how you look or what you wear, how arrogant of these guys to assume the right to touch you! Doesn’t anyone teach them anything about respecting every person? This is not what a “good friend” does either. Good for you that you did something about it.