I’m scared again
Scared Grace, Texas
After over a year in an abusive relationship, I left for good. Never to return. I moved in with a girlfriend who had a spare room, and tried to move on with my life.
One night, I came home late from a night out. I walked into my bedroom, turned on the light and found my ex-boyfriend sitting on my bed. He asked where I’d been, saying good girls don’t stay out till two in the morning.
I was terrified, but kept my cool. I said, oh, I have to give my cousin a movie I borrowed, and I ran back outside to give my cousin the movie. But he followed to see who I was with. We told him to leave and called the police.
I stayed at my cousins house that night.
Later, he began following me to work. Three month’s later I got my own apartment, and he followed me there, too.
I met a new guy, and started dating him. Later my ex followed my new boyfriend. One day, he confronted him in public and told him lies about me, trying to get my boyfriend to leave me.
He didn’t, and we soon married, and have been together for eight years.
My ex-boyfriend seemed to stay away after that. I thought he just decided to leave me alone.
Fast forward to today, I got a call at my office from my ex-boyfriend. He told me he was sorry, and he was happy for me. He told me he just got out of prison last August, and that he got married. He was in prison for 6 1/2 years for assault.
So now I’m scared again. Did he truly just want to tell me he was sorry. Or is the only reason he left me alone was cause he was in prison? Has he been watching me again. Should I worry, or should I be afraid. I can’t help but be a little worried.







October 11th, 2007 at 7:20 pm
My advice is to petition your local courts for an order of protection. Given his conviction for assault, an order of protection will ensure that he goes to prison, and stays a lot longer if he violates your court defined legal space. Be worried. Document, then report, in the mean time, seek the order of protection.
January 18th, 2008 at 10:15 am
no dont worry you will be fine live your happy new life
March 29th, 2008 at 9:49 pm
Scared Grace,
I’m sorry to say you have every reason to be scared. Stalkers do not just turn over a new leaf. They will try every tactic to get back in to your life, and one of them is calling to apologize and tell you exactly what you want to hear.
And yes, most likely the only reason he has left you alone was because he couldn’t stalk you in prison.
I don’t tell you anything you don’t already know - he’s played his games before and you know exactly how they’ll turn out.
Please listent to George, as this will probably save you the grief you shouldn’t have had to go through before.
K.