Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences

 A Shy Girl   

     I work in a maintenance department, mainly with three older men. At first, I saw them as a fatherly figure (boss), a playful older brother (coworker), and a creepy uncle (coworker).

     The creepy uncle always stared at women walking down the wall, talked about how horrible his wife is, how he would like to take so-and-so out and see where things go…blah blah blah. 

     He rides motorcycles as does my boss and one year they were going to some bike rally.  I was invited to go along, and so I rode on the back of the bike with the creepy uncle.  He kept touching my lower leg, rubbing it NOT PATTING it but rubbing it.  I could not tell him to stop while on the back of a motorcycle and there was no where for me to move my leg.

     Well, he did things like that often after that. 

     I saw him in a store and walked up to say “Hi.”  He immediately grabs me around the waist and starts walking with me like I’m his date.  I moved away from him, but he kept grabbing at me like that. 

     I don’t know what to do in situations like that and I am shy, and I know that is no excuse. 

     Well, things with him basically died down concerning stuff like that, mainly because I make it a point to stay out of his reach. 

     But now, the fatherly figure has changed into a creepy uncle too.   He’s touched me before, but such as massaging my shoulders if he saw that I was stressing (I am a graduate student also and work part time in the maintenance dept). I didn’t mind because he was a fatherly figure, always did it in front of other people and it never seemed inappropriate.

     Well, I was in the truck with him making a supply run and he said that I was too tense and needed to wind down.  So, he grabbed my left leg and started massaging it. Then he put my foot on his lap and started massaging the whole leg.  I didn’t know what to do or say, I felt a little paralyzed.  His hands worked from the ankle all the way up to the upper thigh.  In fact he touched me on the crotch, but I am not sure he meant it because it didn’t happen again.  But during this time, he said that he would love to see me orgasm just to see me loose.  He said he’d love to make me “relax.”

     They are always talking about porn in front of me. Sometimes they read porn magazines during break.  Whenever I am at the computer inputting things, my boss usually makes a comment along the lines of “you looking at porn again?” Then he’ll say something like, ”well,  let me look at it with you to show you how it’s really done.”

     I am the same age as his  daughters.  I just don’t understand it.  He is married.

     I never reported any what has happened, and have not told anyone about that truck ride.  I know I should have been vocal about the whole thing.  But to me, I just feel  paralyzed during the whole thing, like I just CAN’T SAY ANYTHING.  I feel I am a poor excuse to women kind. I always thought myself as a strong person, but feel now that I am not.

     This is my last month there, just two weeks to go.  And then I am taking school seriously.  I need a healthier environment. 

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