Comments on: I feel guilty that this man has gotten into trouble http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/ Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences Tue, 14 Oct 2008 04:01:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: Chloe http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/#comment-6044 Fri, 14 Dec 2007 04:18:08 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/#comment-6044 Kelly, I clicked on your story because I have similar feelings about a situation at work of which I am the only victim. Like you though, I didn't make the complaint - sombody else saw/heard things that were hapening and reported them. The kinds of comments I was subjected to were far less vulgar than yours. Yet my ultimate manager is taking these VERY seriously. This upset me, but he explained that other people have been offended by what was said to me and that constitues sexual harrassment on them as well! I'm sure in this case the guy won't be fired, but the office will be much safer and more comfortable for all the women. My main concern now is that guys in the office might be afraid to talk to me or have a laugh in case I think they are harrassing me. Thanks for sharing your story! Kelly, I clicked on your story because I have similar feelings about a situation at work of which I am the only victim. Like you though, I didn’t make the complaint - sombody else saw/heard things that were hapening and reported them. The kinds of comments I was subjected to were far less vulgar than yours. Yet my ultimate manager is taking these VERY seriously. This upset me, but he explained that other people have been offended by what was said to me and that constitues sexual harrassment on them as well!
I’m sure in this case the guy won’t be fired, but the office will be much safer and more comfortable for all the women.
My main concern now is that guys in the office might be afraid to talk to me or have a laugh in case I think they are harrassing me.

Thanks for sharing your story!

]]> by: Ana http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/#comment-5271 Sun, 18 Nov 2007 20:46:12 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/#comment-5271 I just want to say, you do not need to feel guilty about this man "getting into trouble." He is an adult and he knows what he is doing! I'm tired of people thinking that we, the victims are getting men into trouble. Remember, reporting reporting harassment is doing the right thing to help and empower all women. Hold your head high--- I just want to say, you do not need to feel guilty about this man “getting into trouble.” He is an adult and he knows what he is doing! I’m tired of people thinking that we, the victims are getting men into trouble. Remember, reporting reporting harassment is doing the right thing to help and empower all women.
Hold your head high—

]]> by: Joe Ramos http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/#comment-3290 Fri, 28 Sep 2007 16:35:21 +0000 http://sexualharassmentsupport.org/speakupse/2007/09/04/felt-guilty-over-harasser/#comment-3290 You should not feel guilty about anything, like help there for you, but, what happened to your boss (manager) is what needed to have happened the first time he crossed the line. Drunk is not an excuse for stupidity, he now will face charges and possible dismissal for his disrespectful behavior. As a manager in an agency that has ZERO tolerance I know this happens and we take care of it quickly, confidentially, and humanely. Being sexually accusted is NOT normal, flirting is permissable, as long as it is accepted by both parties. Unwanted advances after told to stop is WRONG. Good luck. You should not feel guilty about anything, like help there for you, but, what happened to your boss (manager) is what needed to have happened the first time he crossed the line. Drunk is not an excuse for stupidity, he now will face charges and possible dismissal for his disrespectful behavior. As a manager in an agency that has ZERO tolerance I know this happens and we take care of it quickly, confidentially, and humanely. Being sexually accusted is NOT normal, flirting is permissable, as long as it is accepted by both parties. Unwanted advances after told to stop is WRONG. Good luck.

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