Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences

Sarah

     I just started hostessing at this classy restaurant a couple of week ago, and at first, I really really liked my head manager. He seemed to put the employees first, like he wanted to look out for us.  My interview was all about stuff that I do for fun and 10 minutes later I was hired with a hug.  He kissed me on the cheek when he saw me, and would always give me hugs and hold my hand.  He seemed like a father figure. 

     None of that was really weird to me until he took me into the back room and told me he used to be a massage therapist.  He sat me down and massaged my arms and hands.  He asked where I lived and said that he’d bring his table over to me and give me a free massage. “I can make you relax.”  The thought made my skin crawl.

     Also at this point, he has decided to start telling me what a great and nice guy he is. I seems to be but not when he feels the need to tell me all the time. it’s so odd.  After that I started be a a little bit cautious of him.

     “We need to talk about that massage.” 

     Now when he sees me, he and puts his hands on my waist and then slowly lets them fall near my butt and legs. That happens ALL THE TIME.  It used to be subtle, but as time goes by, it gets more and more forward. 

     Sometimes he grabs the end of my shirt and rubs it in his hands.  He’s always telling me how beautiful I am all while touching me any time he can.  He was telling me today what a great kisser he is was asking me what kinds of guys i like. 

     The first time he sees me in the day he looks at what I’m wearing and ”fixes” it, whether it be my straps on my shirt or strings hanging off.  He has to “fix” my wardrobe so he can touch me. 

     Usually he has me come back to the office alone with him and just type as he reads things to me, but he gets “distracted” and starts talking about other things.  While we were back there he found the tattoo on my foot and took my foot and started rubbing it so sensually.  

     His manner continues to be fatherly but there’s this air about him that’s way too  sexual.

     The more i read about the type of person a sexual harasser is and what the victim is usually like, he fits it and i fit it nearly perfectly.  

     I try to tell my self it’s no big deal and it’s going to go away soon.  But then when it’s actually happening my heart starts to pound and my  mind races…’what if he follows me to my car one day?’  Then i think if i completely ignore it he’ll get bored with it and  stop. 

     I’m 19, he’s 58 and married with two beautiful kids.  I’m to shy to say anything to ANYONE.  I don’t want to.   Like other’s that  have posted here, i feel a disgrace to womankind for being too shy to  speak up.  Also as I read more on sexual harassment, I’ve realized that i have been sexually harassed numerous times (i mean, five or six) without even knowing it until now.

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