Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences

Whenever these things happen, my mind freezes up

Kira, California

I guess I am here because I feel I need to tell someone what has been happening to me….

I live in a very bad area, three or four blocks away from a main intersection where hookers always walk around… The men in my neighborhood seem to think that any woman walking down the sidewalk is a hooker, regardless of how they are dressed. Whether I’m in work uniform or casual, they shout vulgar things at me, ask me if I am working, ask me how much.

One week a man I had small talk with on the bus started stalking me. He found out where I worked and started calling my job and asking for my schedule, and showing up every single day to see me. Then one morning I woke up and someone was knocking on my door–I was him, he must have followed me home one night. I didn’t answer the door because I was scared, then he started tapping in various places on the door. I called the cops but they took so long to get to my house, he was gone by the time they got there. The next day he showed up at my job again and my general manager got him arrested.

On 3 separate occasions guys have tried to jack off in front of me. One sat down next to me at a bus stop and started touching himself. Two different guys on two different occasions have driven by me in their cars and pulled over and started jacking off. One of them even tried to ask me for directions to stall… I couldn’t hear what he was saying so I got up and walked to to car and that’s when I saw him jacking off.

Lately, my standard greeting to any man who approaches me is my middle finger.

It really makes me angry. I am beginning to hate men. Whenever these things happen, my mind freezes up, and I always forget to take down a licence plate or to call the cops. But part of me is too scared. I don’t even think the cops would care.

I’ve lost so much faith in humanity.

I just want to run errands peacefully and have a nice day without some pervert hitting on me or showing me his dick. It’s starting to affect my mind now. If I see a man on the bus with his hand even remotely near his lap I get nervous. I’ve lost a lot of desire for my boyfriend because of all this.

I don’t want to be this way. I’m tired of this. I want to move away but I don’t have the money to right now. Please share any advice or thoughts you might have…please….

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2 Responses to “Whenever these things happen, my mind freezes up”

Jessica Says:
October 19th, 2007 at 12:21 pm
Im not sure how to respond. Living day after day like this must be aweful and i sympathize with you. Im a ferm believer that if something is in the open air in public view it can be documented however way you can manage. That is why i love my cell phone… It has a camera on it i can take pictures with. I even got a pervert at my college the police couldnt catch arrested after 2 months of uninvited behavior in the female locker rooms. He was disgusting but i got his picture and that caught him. Im not saying that you should be a vigilanty. But this problem is big and if a camera phone will make you feel safe then do it. Even talking to the local authorities about the amount of prostitution in your area might solve the problem. Get rid of the whores and the Johns will go away too. Im sorry you have to live this way.
michelle Says:
October 21st, 2007 at 12:06 pm
don’t be afraid, stop living in fear everyday just because of one man! you can take him down. you can get help. or, if i were you, i would move in with a family member or friend to feel more safe. i’ve been stalked before, but i got help from my friends, and now i don’t live in constant fear.