Sexual Harassment Stories and Experiences

This makes me angry

6 Responses to “This makes me angry”

1. Sophia nidia Says:
   February 9th, 2008 at 10:31 am

   Dear Lisa,

   I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I am 30 years old there there is this perverted middle aged man who from the moment he started working there, he kept staring at me in sexually suggestive ways to the point where I felt like he was raping me with his eyes. So I sent him an email copying in Human Resources, telling him to stop staring at me and that it makes me uncomfortable. Of course he got mad.

   Even after Human Resources has spoken to him, and managers have changed the seating arrangements to put distance between him and I, he still continues to stare at me - doing it when no one is looking or subtly so that no one notices. It infuriates me because he is just doing it out of spite because I wasnt flattered by his advances.

2. Lisa Says:
   February 11th, 2008 at 12:24 pm

   Dear sophia,

   Thankyou for your reply. I am sorry you have to be subjected to this type of harassment. I am happy that you contacted human resoures about this perverted man’s advances. But like in my case they don’t seem to have done enough to help you. In my case. I thought about just wearing pant-suits to work because I felt so violated by this man looking up my skirt. But said to hell with him why should he dictate what I wear to work. The women in the office have been a great support to me and they are making life uncomfortable for this perverted man. So hopefully he will look for work elsewhere. Fingers crossed.

   Lisa.

3. Michael Says:
   March 4th, 2008 at 2:44 pm

   As a male, but a real man, I offer my apologies in behalf of these animals. I appreciate a lady telling how she feels about certain things. if you continue, real men will get the hint and act accordingly. To Sophia, if dude was a feel man he would have stopped after you shot him that email. that’s why I called them animals. The only thing that separates us from animals is our ability to think & reason things out. If we don’t do that, we are just like animals!!!!!!!

4. Peggy Says:
   March 16th, 2008 at 12:13 am

   I know exactly how you feel. I had a similar experience like Sophia above had. There is a co-worker at my place of employment that has a major crush on me. He is tall and gawky and gives me the creeps. He has a MAJOR pervert vibe. Everytime he sees me he stares at me in very sexually suggestive ways. I avoid him like the plague. I have never given him any indication that I would EVER accept his advances. In fact, I look at him as if he is dirt. I can’t stand him and he actually makes me want to throw up. I would think most men would back off when a woman lets them know that they think they are vile and revolting. When I am not working he’ll show up at various places that I sometimes frequent such as a local restaurant. He then does the exact same thing there. My friend witnessed his behavior at the restaurant and said his behavior was 100% sexual harassment. She agreed with me that he was very creepy and perverted. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what would be a very good way to make this stop? To Michael, it is a shame there aren’t more men out there like you. I agree with you, they aren’t real men, but the sad thing is there are more creeps and perverts out there than there are real men.

5. sharon Says:
   March 24th, 2008 at 3:45 pm

   Michael I couldn’t have said it better myself.

   Good way of putting it.

6. Dominique Says:
   June 22nd, 2008 at 10:49 am

   About the stalking: is there any way you can get a tall, muscled male friend to accompany you to this restaurant and stare with absolute hatred and agression at this guy? Don’t know if it would work. I admit I never had a friend like that myself because I could have used him when my boss went to the same parties as me.

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