Comments on: He sent me to the hospital after I told him to “Get Lost!”

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 01:02:34 +0000

I have a similar thing going on it is also my first year and I am being stalked by a guy that is 2 or 3 yeas older he started out okay jjust tlking to me a lot but recently it has gotten to the point that he grabbed my arm in the hallway told me he was gonna get me a lone then rape me I was so scared I began to cry I told mymother and many close friends I can’t sleep at night bc he knows where i live I am always looking around and I cannot go anywhere alone he has taken over my life and has pushed me too far I don’t know what to do bc everything I do do angers him even more
*name was changed to secure Identity

By: Sharon Russell

Sharon Russell — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 06:45:14 +0000

This man will continue to hinder your life, and ultimately will take it to the extent until he either seriously maimes you or affects you emotionally until you are an insignificant other, I once told a blind person he wasnt my type, I dont mean racially or anything like that it was more the underlying problem with women and the grovelling and tactile characteristics that were the incesant problems reneging a free relationship and the inevitable empowerment, control and depressive control this indivudual could of had on MY LIFE. Do you know what I mean?

By: I hate stalkers

I hate stalkers — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:28:36 +0000

This is awful. It’s horrible that your school refused to get involved when they were witnesses to what happened!

It sounds like he’s not going to stop unless action is taken. Following you around and trying to talk to you when you told him to go away is still considered stalking, and it’s considered illegal. Please go to the police and report everything he’s done to you, and tell them he’s still following you around. Also, I hope you’ve kept the e-mails and voice messages he sent you. If not, if he sends you any more, save them and report every single time he contacts you.

I would also contact the Department of Education and report your school for refusing to take action. It’s happening in THEIR school. They should be responsible for stopping it.

It’s also awful that he’s contacting your friends. Encourage them to file reports themselves. He shouldn’t stalk them, too.

Hahaha, it’s hysterical that he tried to apologize. Usually when the perpetrators are called out for what they are, they are all-of-a-sudden sorry. Don’t be mistaken — his apology isn’t sincere, and he’s proving it by following you around now.

I’m sorry all of this is happening to you. And schools should be safe places. But I hope you can stop this sicko somehow.

By: Worried High school girl

Worried High school girl — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 00:01:21 +0000

Thank you all for your support! You advice is all excellent. I felt i though i should update on the situation in a brief(ish) comment. It is a couple of weeks into the school year and so far…it’s not too much better, but slightly. I don’t see the boy except in the hallways but he always make a poit to cross the hall and stand infront of me and try to talk to me. For the most part i keep my chin up and act as if he isn’t there. Sometime you just cant avoid it though. He sometimes waits outside my bus and just follows me inside, watching. now is talk to my mom at the gas station near my house, where he is now employeed. Also anytime i go the he goes back to the creepy staring thing that he does. The worst has to be what he does to my new boyfriend though. (i have not let him affect my social likfe as much as i can) The boy that i am currently seeing was a new student that i met in hoomroom on the very first day of school. My “stalker” from the past year harasses this new kid and i heard rumors of some sort of fight one day over this past weekend. Both boys were out on monday. i have witnessed several verbal diputes between these two already. it is getting to stressful all over again and that doesn’t even include my school work.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 16:29:07 +0000

I agree with the previous responses, however I disagree with your friends’ advice about telling this guy that his behaviour is scaring you. Any admission of weakness will only further empower an individual with this personality type. You’ve been a fighter so far, don’t let your personal power go. You are right to take steps to protect and defend yourself from this sick individual.

I absolutely agree that the law must get involved and charge this guy if it can be proven that there was an intent to harm. If this intent can’t be proven, taking him to court and him winning will only further empower him to behave like this, and possibly worse, in the future. The school must be forced, legally, to take responsibility for failing to promptly deal with this situation thereby causing it to escalate further, resulting in physical harm to one of its students.

I can understand how this escalating behaviour may be increasing your fear and you have the right to your feelings, however don’t allow this guy’s sickness to consume you. Don’t internalize it and begin to doubt yourself or your actions, rather externalize it and express it in positive ways. You have the right to be angry over this situation and the way it’s been handled. If you find yourself feeling angry, harness it and use it to propel you forward to insist that your rights to liberty and safety be respected.

I submitted a comment regarding the post just after yours (I believe the young woman’s name is Maryan, from California). You may find it helpful in your situation as well.

You, too, are a fighter. Don’t ever let that precious part of You go.

God Bless you,
Cindy

By: VANGOGH

VANGOGH — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:56:45 +0000

I agree you need to stay away from him and file some sort of report at least that will feel like proof because I think you already have proof but maybe not in the sense that you think.

It is hard to be in school around the same people everyday and I too was a very quiet person with few friends and I understand why you didn’t say anything to him at first but with the way he reacted and the physical violence there is no telling what he is capable of doing to you! That is what is scary. And trust me you are still a nice person even if you tell on him. There are so many situations that could be prevented if you trust your instincts and report it to the right people. I know it is embarassing but you have to protect yourself because otherwise no one will.

By: Bekka

Bekka — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 08:02:40 +0000

Get the police involved. He’s likely to get more violent if you keep ignoring him and he’s obviously stalking you.

Get the cops involved, because he could wait until you’re alone to ambush you.

By: Sue

Sue — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 21:06:06 +0000

Proof! what more proof do they need!? you have witnesses who saw what happened. that’s awful the administration won’t help you. Sad situation that the schools ignore harrassment. This is awful. Just do your best to stay away from this boy.
Whenever i read stuff like this going on, I’m so glad I graduated when I did. getting dangerous to go to school these days. It’s horrible they ‘bullies’ get away with so much nowadays!
that’s very sad for you.

By: Administrator

Administrator — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 05:23:24 +0000

Without proof? My gosh, you had witnesses to all of this, and the school still won’t do anything??? Of course, I shouldn’t be surprised because I hear report after report of schools ignoring harassment and abuse, be it by students or school employees. What happened to you, well, this isn’t “Boys will be boys” stuff here. This kid has more than proven he is a danger to you, and could be to other girls, too. Stay away from him, no matter how apologetic he gets. Also, think about contacting the Department of Education and filing a grievance against the school. What is going on here is very serious, and by law, the school has to deal with it. -Jennifer