He seeks out vulnerable younger women
I hate stalkers
I suffer from depression, and I joined an online depression group my friend participated in.
I shared my stories on online posts, and a guy decided to befriend me. He was studying counseling at a Christian school. I didn’t count on him being of any professional help, but I decided there was no harm in being his friend.
I made a post on my online journal about some problems I was having, and he requested my phone number. Like an idiot I gave it to him, not thinking there was any harm.
He started to call me every single day, even when I told him it was beginning to be a bit too much and I wanted him to stop, but he never did.
He continued to contact me. He saw online photos of me and began to make very sexually explicit comments and requests. He then tried to push phone sex on me.
I looked up some information about him and found out he has stalked and harassed several young women online, mainly from other depression groups. I found out that he was 20 years older than me (I’m in my 20s) and he’s technically old enough to be my father. He basically seeks out vulnerable teens and young women and tries to push sex on them, and he’s been doing this for years. The fact he’s studying counseling is extremely alarming. He was also in an illegal relationship with a 17-year-old, whom he also stalks frequently. He’s a classic definition of a predator.
I was so revolted by him. I told him to never contact me again, and if he did, I would contact law enforcement. Next I blocked him from every social networking site I knew him in.
He contacted me from different usernames, saying that he “never meant for things to go so far,” he just became attracted to me, and that I “shouldn’t act so paranoid.”
Yes, I should. He obviously has no self-control, no respect for boundaries, and he won’t leave people alone when they told him to go away.
I contacted the abuse team on the site, but because he used different user names, it was difficult to stop him.
He eventually left me alone, but then he called me several months later. I didn’t recognize his number, so I answered and he said he had something to say to me. When I realized it was him, I yelled at him, hung up, and changed my number. I’ve also changed every single one of my usernames online as well as taking down all pictures of myself that were on the Internet.
He’s now the reason why I no longer participate in depression groups. He’s also the reason why something so basic as my e-mail is no longer public. Stalkers, harassers, predators…they just disgust me to no end.
What is really sad about this is that you were trying to reach out and help yourself by joining that group and then what comes along a predator in the very group! omg
I mean seriously that is awful. I hate that you feel like you can’t participate in anymore groups and I probably need to join one of depression groups myself but like you I sure don’t need anymore crazy-stalking men in my life.
My hope for you is that you find a place that you do feel safe posting in.
vangogh
vangogh:
Thanks very much. My depression became much worse after all of this. But I do have a therapist who’s helping me through this.
Here is an update on the situation:
I finally mustered up the courage to contact his college about his actions. I just can’t believe that someone like this is studying to become a counselor, and I don’t want him to do this to other women and young girls, ESPECIALLY in a real-life setting.
I contacted the registrar and the department chair of the counseling program. After they assured I can be kept anonymous, I told them the whole story as well as send them messages he sent to me. They’re now taking action. Heaven forbid if he becomes a counselor.
I also plan on calling my local police and talking to my college’s law school about a victim project they have. It might be too late to contact them, but I want to make sure that he doesn’t contact me again, especially in retaliation of me contacting his college (if he finds out I contacted them).
So, this is a victory.
Congrats and I admire your courage. Good Luck!!!
vangogh
Hi:
I am so glad you shared some private information about yourself. I am also a victim of psychiatric abuses however I know longer have any affiliation with abusers or abusive company and for years (minus the everyday gang stalking from welfare Ontario.
I am sorry to hear about your group disappearance and hope you can return soon if that of course is what you really want.
I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope that you are able to recover from his abuse.
Karen: That’s so awful. I’m very sorry that happened to you. I know that psychiatric abuse happens…being a psychiatrist, a therapist, or a counselor gives criminals power over vulnerable people. That’s why I’m trying to prevent this predator from becoming a counselor. There’s no doubt about it — he WILL do this to another young woman, and what’s even scarier is that it will be in a real-life setting. But I really hope you’re doing well after all of that. I haven’t heard anything much from his school, but at least I told them what happened.
Paula: Thanks. Fortunately, I do have a good therapist I’m working with. I’m just not going to trust people online so easily anymore, no matter how good of a person they seem, and no matter if they’re trying to be counselors. This just only confirmed to me that wolves wear sheep’s clothing.
Hi
I am sorry to hear about the situation you had with the stalkers. I hope you got rid of him for good, because you don’t need that in your life. I been stalked by a man for seven years, and he still stalkes me. knowing that i am being stalked by a man keeps me paranoid and scared. I try to be as careful as possible when im out int he streets. I don’t go out late by myself. I pay more attention to my surroundings. the man that stalkes me follows me to work, school, and public places. He sit outside my house a lot. He knows my work schedule. When i leave home for work, he comes out of no where. I feel like my life has change since a stalker has come into my life. The most thing that im afraid of is that one day he will enter my home or creep up on me and hurt me.
Today i decided to go on the website on stalkers, and i came up on this site. I read your story, and it easy for me to share my story with someone who is in the same situation as me. I will pray for you and i hope things will work out for you.